Wednesday, April 20, 2011

My Spouse, My Friend by Pele Odiase

I found this blog post recently and thought it was great advice for all people. Please be careful to read it all the way to the end however. This post was found at:


My spouse, my friend

March 3, 2009 by Pele Odiase

I suppose the ideal situation is for one to be able to say ‘ I married my best friend’ or at least ‘I married my friend’. When the chips are down, you’ll need a friend to stand by you, to confide in and comfort you. Love is important in any dating or marriage relationship, however it is equally important that you marry your friend.

Proverbs 18:24

A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.- King James Version

Amongst other factors to take into consideration when choosing a mate, ‘friendship’ should rank high on the list. It is nice to date a beautiful lady, an educated gentleman or a devout Christian but is your date your friend? Who is a friend? A friend as defined by the Chambers Dictionary is a close or intimate acquaintance, a favourer, a person loving or attached to another. In addition to the above, a friend should also be a person that believes in you, just as Abraham believed in God and was called The Friend of God. This should be the ultimate definition of true and bible friendshipJames 2:23And the scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God.- King James Version.

Does the person you are dating believe in you? If you are engaged, does your fiancĂ©/fiancĂ©e believe in you, and if you are married does your spouse believe in you? When the initial euphoria after the marriage is over, you’ll need a friend. Life would throw punches which at times may be below the belt, and then you’ll need a friend. When you need encouragement and others seem to discourage you, you’ll need a friend. When things don’t seem to work right and you are in-between your faith and manifestation, you’ll need a friend to hold up your hands like Aaron and Hur.Exodus 17:12But Moses' hands were heavy; and they took a stone, and put it under him, and he sat thereon; and Aaron and Hur stayed up his hands, the one on the one side, and the other on the other side; and his hands were steady until the going down of the sun.- King James Version

If you intend to date, consider establishing a strong and healthy friendship first, that is if you intend to take in to the next level, otherwise you have no business dating. If you’re engaged, invest in your friendship and if you’re married invest your life in making your spouse your best friend.