If I can write a post to the girls in their vulnerability, I think I owe the guys something too. Especially because I just finished reading Wild at Heart by John Eldredge. Yes, it is the male version of the book I mentioned in my last post. (Just so you know, the male version came first.)
The similarity on both the male and female side of things, is that the process of healing for both is hard, painful, and revealing. You're looking into the depths of your heart for crying out loud, it should be painful. The preciousness that lies within your soul is the key to all things male. Everything you dreamed of as a boy, and everything you hope to be for your (future) wife, family, and kids is in this deeply treasured place. Don't mistake my words, men and women are very different, but the journey to finding self is equally painful.
So why do it if it's painful? Because you are what this world needs. You are the MAN she's been waiting for. You are the leader, the fighter, the powerful lover that the church has waited for. Your son needs you so he won't walk through life wounded. Your daughter needs you so she won't look for love elsewhere. And your wife needs you to fight for her, thus unveiling her beauty.
I realize many of you reading this are single, that's all the more reason to fight for your soul now. God designed you to be this man from the beginning. Find that man now, so when the beauty comes along you will have the love and confidence to fight for her with a holy passion and protection. The movie and song Courageous have spoken out on this need. The people in your life speak out on it everyday, only you don't realize it, and they probably don't either.
The truth is, you hold a special place as a man. From a woman's point of view I can definitely say that we need you, we urge you, and we want you to step up for us and lead the way. Spiritually you have such an adventure to grasp, and I hope you choose to take the hard path of discovery into being THE man God made you to be.